Spot on! Even when a loved one hurts you repeatedly, you can take responsibility for yourself, realize the pattern, set better boundaries and protections, and still love yourself and the loved one.
This is an invaluable framing for healing. It would also be interesting to examine the need for one who offends to become self-reflective and contrite in order to facilitate their own healing and transformation.
I literally just wrote a few notes on forgiveness. And the new age definition if forgiveness. Once the event is processed fully, the words you say to the other person is neutral. You can convey the harm they caused without blame. And you don't need anyone's apology.
Holding onto blame, anger & resentment. Is like drinking poison & expecting the culprit to die. - A wise man once said!
Spot on! Even when a loved one hurts you repeatedly, you can take responsibility for yourself, realize the pattern, set better boundaries and protections, and still love yourself and the loved one.
Very applicable to a situation I find myself in. Thank you for the comparison and analysis.
This is an invaluable framing for healing. It would also be interesting to examine the need for one who offends to become self-reflective and contrite in order to facilitate their own healing and transformation.
Love the knife analogy!
I literally just wrote a few notes on forgiveness. And the new age definition if forgiveness. Once the event is processed fully, the words you say to the other person is neutral. You can convey the harm they caused without blame. And you don't need anyone's apology.