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The Sovereign Phoenix's avatar

What stayed with me most was the distinction between fighting a behavior and understanding the story beneath it. The idea that the old self isn't a defect to overcome but a survival strategy to understand feels both compassionate and true.

I've found that lasting change rarely comes from declaring war on who we were. It comes from recognizing the wisdom hidden inside those old patterns, thanking them for carrying us this far, and allowing a larger identity to emerge.

A thoughtful piece on identity, memory, and transformation.

Annelies's avatar

hmmmm, this has lifted the veil of me and food.....it's about safety......to be explored, rewritten an retired. Thanks Jade for this gift🙏💜

Dr. Jade Teta's avatar

Love you my friend

Annelies's avatar

Love you too, and Oops was supposed to read rewired....keeps automatically switch to retired🤔😉

Rache Brand's avatar

Everything we do needs a reframe. Thank you for putting this out there.

Rache Brand's avatar

I love your visuals always. This is so awesome.

Dr. Jade Teta's avatar

Thank you Rache. I appreciate you.

Rache Brand's avatar

Right backatcha. Big love right here.

Sarah Erwin's avatar

Yes.

The older I get, the less I believe people heal by defeating parts of themselves.

The parts we call flaws were often acts of devotion once.

The child who learned to disappear.

The woman who learned to carry everything.

The man who learned never to cry.

The one who scans every room.

The one who never rests.

Most of them were trying to keep someone alive.

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Healing begins when we stop asking,

“How do I get rid of this?”

and start asking,

“What were you protecting?”

The answer is often heartbreakingly simple.

Love.

Safety.

Belonging.

Connection.

A place to put the fear down.

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The goal was never to exile the old self.

Only to thank it for carrying what it carried.

To let it set the burden down.

To show it that the danger has passed.

And then, slowly, to widen the circle until every part has a seat at the table.

Not defeated.

Not erased.

Recognized.

Because the deepest changes I have witnessed were never acts of conquest.

They were acts of welcome.

And what emerged afterward did not feel like becoming someone new.

It felt like finally coming home.

R. Lee's avatar

Or you could just delete the version of you that gets love through eating too much food and activate the athlete. No willpower or struggle required beyond the willpower to do the deletion and the activation. To do that, you have to give up the idea the obsolete version has meaning.